What happens when something ends up in your face that drives you nuts?
This may be a car cutting you off on the highway, or someone budging in line at the store, or someone saying something that you strongly disagree with.
When I took Marshall Sylver ’s Turning Point seminar, he said, “It is better to be happy than right.” At first I didn’t get it. I want to be happy and right. As the course went on, and additional seminars I went to taught by Marshall, I got it.
In my younger years, I would have said something sarcastic to the person cutting in line or insisted that I am next and defend my spot in line until the end. When someone went on a political rant, I would have to defend my team. As time goes by and you learn from your mistakes and your successes, you start to make more profitable decisions. Profit can be financial and it can be emotional, physical, and psychological.
What is more profitable or beneficial to your life (and blood pressure) – getting into an argument or just letting it go?
You have three basic choices:
1 – Get your point across and prove that you are right with the aggravation that goes with it and possible escalation that could turn into a mess.
2 – You can keep it inside and let it stew. This causes tons of physiological problems including short and long-term health and relationship issues.
3 – You can just be happy and let the situation go. As philosopher Leo Tolstoy said, “If you want to be happy, be.”
There is no good or bad in any situation. Seriously. There is only the meaning that you give to it. Most of us give the same meaning to tragedies - that it is bad, sad, unfair, or the like. Others give it different meanings. Such as the person doing the harm may get pleasure out of it. Right or wrong, my point is that events are events. You get to CHOOSE the meaning you give to it.
Someone cuts in line, it may be intentional or unintentional. It really doesn’t matter. The way you react to matters and it is your choice. You can yell at him. You can keep it inside and get mad all day about it. Or you can say to yourself, “Hmm, that is interesting, I wonder if he knows he just took my place in line? He must be in a bigger rush than I am.” And then you let it go.
When you focus your energy on the little inconsequential events of your day, you take away from the important things in your life. You cannot have a bad day because this happened and that happened to you and turn a switch and leave it all behind when you come home. If it is affecting your day, it is also going to affect the rest of your life. That means your family, relationships, friends, health … everything.
Focus your energy into the things that matter. Having a better relationship with those you love. Making more money so you can afford the important things in life to share with those you love, such as a vacation, or a better house. And focus on your purpose in life. What is your calling? Starting a business, a new invention, raising awareness for a cause, teaching others, or is it something else? Don’t know what your calling is? Then focus on figuring that out.