What the F@#K!
Almost every day you see posts from a Facebook friend that has vulgar and unnecessary language (using the actual words), the jokes are mean, and in bad taste. Should you “unfriend” this buddy or just hide the posts?
Would you invite someone to your home for dinner that curses … a lot?
What about someone who is negative and likes to bash others?
What about someone that uses racial jokes and ugliness?
If you said yes to any of these, please don’t friend me because you don’t get it.
If these are not acceptable in your home, at your dinner table and around your family, why would you keep someone as a FB friend if they violate your values and rules.
Facebook is my online house. It is where I chat and talk with my friends in a semiprivate forum. I only hang with offline (i.e. in person) friends that are optimistic, happy, and making the world a better place. It isn’t any different with my online friends.
If a friend posts something ugly and I disagree, I should respond and give that person an opportunity to say, “Hey, thanks. That was out of line, I should not have said that.” If you see more verbal vomit coming from the same person you know it is time to cut them loose. If you don’t you are choosing to swim in your own cesspool and yelling to your friends, “Come on in, the water is fine.”
Am I over the top in my metaphors? Not even close. You, and only you, are the gatekeeper to your mind and life. Why hang with people, on or offline, that don’t amplify the happiness in your life or make your world better?
Making an offensive FB friend’s post ‘hidden’ is not enough. It is your obligation to Unfriend them and here’s why.
Facebook suggests my friends to my other friends. And if I have someone as a friend that posts things that are ugly, racial, or profane, than someone else may end up with that friend too through FB's suggestion algorithm, “4 people are mutual friends with John Doe.” Then those ugly posts end up in their timeline too. That would be like saying to your friend, “Did you hear the cursing and racial jokes from Joe? I think you should invite him over for dinner with your kids.”
This reminds me of quote from the philosopher Dr. Seuss, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” My translation to this is – only hang with those who enrich your life.
The bottom line is that you are gatekeeper of your mind, and in this case your friends FB timeline. If you allow ugly posts into your timeline because you are FB friends with a verbal vomit villain you are polluting your brain with human waste of the un-intellectual kind. So go ahead and do the right thing. Purge those pathetic posting peeps and hit the delete button next to their name.
Celebrate life,
Croix Sather
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